Adult Situations

This article was written by Alexandra Dalmas

So you finally landed a first date with that guy who makes you absolutely weak at the knees just crazy in love with butterflies. Just like an interview to land the perfect job, this is your interview to land the perfect partner. In a world where first impressions last, it is important you prepare yourself for your first date so that he cannot get you out of his head. Ever!

I know whenever one of us girls goes on a first date there is a whole ritual involved. The day starts with an early morning rise to shop with the girls for the perfect outfit. It then finishes with us discussing what coffee shop they will be waiting in if an escape plan is needed, what time your mobile will ring with the “help call” and most importantly what not to do to keep him interested.

Don’t be late: It may work for people in the fashion industry, but for a date it’s a complete faux pas. It makes you seem as though you are too good.

Don’t play games: Don’t toy with his feelings or play too hard to get. You can come across as disinterested or simply to hard a challenge. This doesn’t mean you need to throw yourself at him, strike a balance. The second big game people tend to play while on a first date is telling little white lies. To have to keep up with all of them is a harder job than simply being honest to begin with. Obviously your intentions are to go further than a first date so honesty is key.

Keep yourself composed: Think about all your actions. Accept compliments graciously, don’t fish. Keep your eyes on your date. When they wonder around the room it looks as though you don’t want to be there. Don’t obsessively talk about yourself or at all about your ex. Most of all be confident, even if you have to fake it.

Don’t Bone: I know “Oh my god, I just wanna bone!” is screaming through your head but sex on the first date is never a good idea especially if you want a relationship to progress. Keep the sexually chemistry bubbling and build your relationship first it will make for a bigger bang when it actually does happen.  A kiss at the very end of the night, however, is always a great way to finish a perfect date.

Keep expectations realistic: We all get carried away fantasizing about how the night is going to go, the only problem, our fantasies can be so extravagant it sets us up for disappointment.  Take every moment for what it is and not what it’s like in the movie Pretty Woman.