Adult Situations

This article was written by Johnell Smalls

She’s probably a best friend. Maybe a relative or she just might be a co-worker. This person has been hand-picked by the future wife of some lucky guy and trusted not to cause drama in any way. But sadly it happens.
Of course, there are bridezillas; it’s their day why shouldn’t everything to go their way. What seems to be a new trend is the transgressions amongst bridesmaids with the entire wedding party and on the actual big day itself.  It starts off wonderful then red flags begin to appear. She may not answer text messages; she begins to ignore email and all other communications. An uninterested and non-supportive bridesmaid is an easy way to rile up the bride.
On the website WeddingBee.com, brides vent about the frustrations they are going through with their bridesmaid. On one of the posts, a woman vents about her friend who was really excited about the wedding but as time progress the future bridesmaid began to ignore messages completely. It wasn’t until the bride sent her maid a text message inquiring if she was avoiding her and if she wanted to be part of the wedding at all that she got a reply. The Bridesmaidzilla said she was without a phone for seven days, was suffering from kidney stones, and she was out of town in an area with horrible reception. In the end, she dropped out of the wedding to the bride’s dismay.

Being a bridesmaid does not require a diva attitude. Some are too outspoken and try to change and take over certain situations. Some are too nonchalant and do not give their all when planning and helping out. Some don’t care and show up late to rehearsals or does not order their dress or go to fittings with everyone else. All of these things have happen to brides and it really causes a headache for them.

For those women who are constantly in weddings but have yet to settle down in a serious relationship, it can become a jealousy thing. Girlfriends can become green with envy and not knowingly upset the bride. Even married women can become jealous. Another venting post on WeddingBee.com, explains a woman who had supported her friend during her wedding. She helped plan it and even went shopping for wedding dresses. A year later when it was time for her wedding, the woman avoided the future bride and finally told her she didn’t feel like talking about weddings. She was having trouble with her marriage and took it out on her friend.

Bringing women together can cause cattiness. Your hometown friends may not like sorority sisters. Your best friend may be your maid of honor and your sister a bridesmaid. Planning a wedding takes a lot time and thought. The bridesmaid role is to help as much as possible but at the end of the day, they’re just walking down an aisle and looking pretty. Some women are good at putting their foot down when it comes to their wedding. Askia Jackson, a school teacher in Pooler, GA didn’t have any trouble out of her bridesmaids. “I think they knew the pregnant bride would have flipped out,” she said. Opting for no bridesmaid is another option. Some just cannot deal with all the drama.

Article written by Johnell Smalls